MALE AND FEMALE MYTHS

I am in the process of packing up and cleaning my room. Imagine the amount of junk/books/clothes/papers/bits and bobs/men (ha I wish) I had to throw away/recycle/donate. A lot. Not so good in term of carbon footprint.

I tore of my wall/noticeboard/inspirational board i.e. taking off all the posters/to do lists/pictures/postcards/bills/timetables/love letters (haha) to leave it all bare sans art. Well my kind of art anyways.

So one of the things on the wall was an article. I got this article/list during my 4th year psychosocial teaching and I would like to share it with you guys.

MALE AND FEMALE MYTHS

1. Sex should be natural and spontaneous- asking for it spoils it.
2. All physical contact must lead to sex.
3. Men always want and ready for sex.
4. Sex is for male pleasure- a woman's duty is to fill his needs not her own.
5. Men must take charge of and orchestrate sex.
6. If women arent orgasmic they should fake it.
7. Women expect men to know all about sex.
8. Men should not have or at least not express certain feelings.
9. Anything other than the missionary position is dirty.
10. Women must wait for male to initiate.
11. For men, in sex, as elsewhere, it is performance that counts.
12. Women must maintain a 'good' reputation.
13. Women must be attractive, obedient and passive- because men expect it.
14.Having sex menas having intercourse.
15. For couple to have sex, the man must have an erection.
16. Good sex always ends in orgasm.
17. Good sex means both partners having an orgasm, preferably at the same time.
18. There is something wrong with a man who has lower sex drive than a woman.
19. In general, women receive more stimulation from alarge penis than a small one.
20. Nice girls dont get turned on- and they certainly never move during love making.
21. Dont show affection to men because the will want sex.
22. If a woman shows interest in making love, she must be promiscuous.
23. Most homosexuals exclusively adopt the passive or active role in their sexual relationship.

I kinda have my own opinion for each of the statement, but telling it outright here would mean disclosing too many personal infos (and you guys will know my preferences in the subject matter.) End of story.

So there you go. Myths. NOT!

Facts and some afterthoughts

• UK has the highest teenage pregnancy rate among Western Europe.
• Approx 180 000 abortions are performed each year in England and Wales.
  
• About one-third of all women in the Great Britain would have an abortion by the time they are 45.
• Rate is highest among the women aged 19.
• Abortion is illegal in Northern Ireland.
• About 40 000 cases of under 18 conception in England and Wales each year.

I'm so pro-life so I think abortion is wrong unless really really necessary (like anencephaly). Now imagine if all those hundred of thousands of the foetus are being born each year. Man, thats alot. Great more babies without a proper place/parent that they can call home. Of course mainly due to irresponsible behaviour leading to unwanted pregnancies.
And teenage pregnancy is soooo stupid. If you wanna have sex use protection, take pills, do something. This is what happen when one (woman) doesnt have any future ambitions/plans. I dont want a baby to get in a way of me reaching for my dreams, doing things I want to do. Plan ahead. Use protection. Dont get me wrong, I certainly love to have a baby (or alot, hehe) of my own. Just not quite yet. I'm young.
Whoever is young out there please please please enjoy your life (enjoy sex if thats what you like), use protection and use EC if worse come to worse. Just dont do abortion. Not fair for the baby. See! Its that simple. Use protection and not get pregnant and not having to think about the dreadful, horrible abortion.

Termination of Pregnancy

[will be referred as TOP here after]

Remember me telling you about my special placement in community? I'm actually doing an audit on TOP at a GP surgery located at the outskirt of the BIGCITY. This is my first audit and it is going on quite well. I'm pretty damn pleased with myself.

The most distressing fact that I gathered from my audit is the fact that almost 50% of all cases of TOP at my GP surgery were from women under the age of 19. Hardly shocking, I know. The very same statistics are reported by the DoH studies year by year.

In any average population, young girls (some had it done repeatedly, how irresponsible?) made up the biggest group of women asking for TOP for unwanted pregnancies. Not to say that TOP is morally right to begin with.

Don’t get me wrong I do agree for TOP if continuing the pregnancy imposes either a great risk to mother or if the fetus is nonviable anyway (like anencephaly or Patau). But I am certainly pro-life. And I think the idea of abortion just because say the timing is not right is absolutely appalling!

In this specific audit I’m writing an essay for, the youngest woman asking for TOP was only 15 year 4 month. That’s not even over the legal age for sex! But do teenage these days even care to have it the safe way (with barrier protection and reliable method of contraception) if they are at it like rabbits?

It is still a wonder to me how certain group of people remains irresponsible for their own well being and takes unnecessary risks. If one decides to have sex with a member of opposite gender, please pretty please use appropriate protection.

PS:Dont get me started on STDs.